Be a Quitter!

Thinking-out-loud-Tuesday #5


It’s time for another stream of consciousness post. No editing, just writing my thoughts as they slip into my head.

Have you ever been really excited to start something new, only to realise it wasn’t what you expected? Maybe it was a new subject at university, a new relationship, a new job, or maybe something as simple as a new book. You look forward to it for so long and you can’t wait to get started. But then it just feels wrong. At first you try to convince yourself that maybe you haven’t given it enough time. You haven’t tried hard enough. You keep going, but it just keeps getting worse. You finally admit to yourself that this wasn’t what you wanted, but you still keep going. You can’t just quit. Quitting would somehow feel like failure. And nobody wants to feel like a failure.

I’ve recently had this experience. I started something new and was really excited about it, but after one day I knew something felt wrong. I tried to keep going, but nothing changed. I kept telling myself to stop whining and to stop feeling sorry for myself. I wasn’t just going to quit.

But… Why is it such a bad thing to quit? I was feeling miserable, but was willing to keep going just because I didn’t want to be a quitter. I was willing to sacrifice my happiness for something I hated.

I eventually did come to my senses. I can’t even begin to describe the relief I felt after I decided to stop. A weight was lifted off my shoulders.

Don’t get me wrong. We all have to do things we don’t like sometimes. But we also have to be honest to ourselves about what we want our lives to be like. Life should be about the pursuit of our own happiness, not about being miserable because we’re too stubborn to give up.

So I’m saying it out loud: It’s okay to quit!

Don’t let your life be destroyed by one bad decision. Learn from your mistakes and keep moving forward.

I mostly wrote this post for myself. I really needed to hear these words. But I hope this post can help someone else be brave too. Quitting isn’t about failure, it’s about being brave enough to follow your instincts!

Just listen!

Have a nice Tuesday!

Photo credit: airpix



  1. Hey Lot, ik ben net gestopt met mn studie. Ik voel me zo veel beter, mensen hebben geen idee. Grappig dat jij pas ook zoiets hebt meegemaakt. En fijn om dit te lezen.. Weet nu in ieder geval dat jij geen scheef hoofd zal trekken;) Hopelijk hoor ik snel hoe en wat er aan de hand is.

    Groetjes Eef


  2. I’ve always been one to stress going over everything and making sure you are making the best decision that you can at any given time with all possible available information but there are times as you point out that its best to cut your losses and move on. Doing so isn’t a bad thing I would argue its probably a good thing because if you are unhappy then you are probably making other unhappy, not performing at your best etc. and in moving on you can allow someone else the chance to do better while you move to something better for you as well.

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